Support Someone Who is Depressed

Dealing with depression can be hard, but helping a loved one who is depressed can be difficult as well. Taking care of, or supporting someone who is depressed can take a toll on you. It is important to keep a couple of things in mind so that you can be there for the person without burning yourself out.

Learn about Depression

“You are not responsible for the way you are feeling.”

The first step towards helping someone with depression is to be aware of the signs of depression and how it impacts the depressed person. Do not blame the person for what he/she is experiencing.

Be supportive

“I am here for you.”

Dealing with a person who has depression is not always easy; however, they need your consistent support to get better. It may help to consult a professional or even read books on what to say and do for such people. Be available and help them access the help they need.

Help them set small goals

“Let’s take it one day at a time.”

Depression negatively affects a person’s motivation. It is often difficult for them to manage their daily life by themselves. Encourage your loved ones to make small goals and help them as far as possible to set and achieve them.

Ask about their needs

“What do you need right now?”

“How can I help you right now?”

Do not hesitate to ask someone who is depressed about their needs and the ways in which they would be comfortable taking your help.

Encourage activity

“Let’s think of things you can do that will help you feel better right now.”

Help your loved one become active by taking them out for walks, movies, to the library or even just for a cup of coffee. Try and motivate engagement in pleasurable activities, as it can help with their mood.

Encourage them to seek help

“I think it would be good if we saw a professional.”

“I think you might benefit from professional help.”

“There is no shame in seeking help.”

Encourage and help your loved one to seek professional help and ensure that they follow their treatment religiously.

Be patient

“I will not push you to do things - you need to get better at your own pace and I will support you.”

Supporting someone with depression can sometimes be really frustrating. Patiently setting realistic expectations can help you feel less frustrated. Recovery is a slow process and you will need all the patience you have in order to help your loved one.

Help them be more aware of and identify negative thoughts

“Can we try and think of this situation differently?”

Sometimes, negative thoughts are so automatic that the person does not realise they exist. If you help them become more aware of theirs, you can also offer alternative viewpoints so that they don’t view situations in a purely negative light.

Take care of yourself

“I also need time for myself.”

In order to be able to provide optimum help to your loved one, it is essential that you take care of yourself. Dealing with your emotions and managing them well puts you in a better position to provide help to your loved one. If things seem really overwhelming, you can also seek help by joining a support group or taking professional help.