Amaha / / / Is Your Anger a Problem?
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14th Aug 2016
Many of us grow up learning that it is wrong to feel angry; that anger is a sign of weakness; or that expressing anger is a mistake. In some cultures, anger is also seen as a masculine trait and at times, popular culture romanticises it. These misconceptions around anger have made it difficult to understand, express and address it.
Anger is a natural human emotion, just as sadness, joy or hurt are. Anger is defined as ‘a strong, uncomfortable emotional response to a provocation that is unwanted and incongruent with one’s values, beliefs, or rights. For instance, if you strongly believe in being punctual, someone showing up late is likely to make you feel angry. More often than not, anger is a response to another primary or core emotion such as hurt or fear. For instance, you might be hurt or disappointed with your spouse for not helping you with household chores, which perhaps is expressed by getting angry. At times, anger can also be useful as it can make us feel less vulnerable or help us recognise dissatisfaction with an event or a person.
Anger in itself is not a problem. However, sometimes, the effect, duration, frequency and the way anger is expressed can become a cause of concern for you and others around you. Your anger can be a problem if
There are ways in which you can manage your anger effectively. However, if you find that you need further help, you might find counselling or therapy useful. It can help you identify the reasons for your anger, understand the processes that trigger and maintain it, and find ways to address your core concerns.
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